Let the Sighs Begin

Let the Sighs Begin


You might feel a gradual welling up of pleasure, or boredom, or misery. Whatever the emotion, it’s more abundant than you ever dreamed. You can no more contain it than your hands can cup a river. And so you surrender and suck the air. Your esophagus opens, diaphragm expands. Poised at the crest of an exhalation, your body is about to be unburdened, second by second, cell by cell. A balloon deflates. A kettle hisses. Your shoulders fall while muscles slack—at last.

My grandmother stared out her kitchen window, ashes from her cigarette dribbling into the sink. She’d turn her back on the rest of the apartment, a sentry guarding her own solitude. I’d tiptoe across the linoleum and make my snack without making a sound. Sometimes I’d notice her back expand and then hear her let out one plummeting note, a sigh so long and weary it might have been her last. Beyond her condominium building, above telephone poles and nearby apartment buildings rose the brown horizon of the city; across it glided an occasional bird, or the blimp that advertised a brand of tires. She may have been drifting into the distance, lamenting her separation from it. She might have been wishing she was somewhere else, or wishing she could be happy where she was—an aging woman dreaming at her sink. 

My father’s sighs were more melodic. What began as a somber sigh could abruptly change pitch, turn gusty and loose, and suggest by its very transformation that what begins as sorrow might end in relief. He could let it ricochet like an echo, as if he were shouting in a tunnel or a cave. Where my grandmother sighed from overwhelming sadness, my father sighed at simple things: the softness of a pillow, the coldness of a drink, or an itch that my mother, following the frantic map of his words found on his back and scratched.

A friend of mine once mentioned that I was given to long and ponderous sighs. Once I became aware of this habit, I heard my father’s sighs in my own and knew for a moment his small satisfactions. At other times, I felt my grandmother’s restlessness and wished I could leave my body with my breath, or be happy in the body my breath left behind.

At any given moment, there are thousands of people sighing. A man in Scottsdale heaves and shivers and blesses the head of the second wife who’s not too shy to lick his toes. A man in Phoenix groans with pleasure after tasting a silky Vienna Chicago style hot dog he loved as a child. Every day, meaningful sighs are expelled from schoolchildren, driving instructors, forensic experts, physicians and surgeons, certified public accountants, and astronomers, and dental hygienists just to name a few.

The sighs of widows and widowers alone must account for a significant portion of the carbon dioxide released into the atmosphere. Their sighs are heavy and it’s almost as if each sigh reinforces their loss, letting them know that yes, indeed, this horrible event did take place. And with each sigh, they are given a glimmer of hope for happiness in the months ahead.

So listen closely when your foot is first submerged in a tub of warm water, or each time you take-off a tight fitting dress, or you bite into a juicy hamburger after a strenuous workout, or when you reach a restroom on a desolate road . . . . you’d think the sheer velocity of these occurrences would create mistrals and weathermen talking a mile a minute. 

Before I learned about couples in gondolas kissing under this particular bridge and the Venetian prisoners who were led across it to their execution, I imagined that the Bridge of Sighs was a feat of invisible engineering, a structure vaulting above the earth, the girders and trusses, the stay ropes and cables, the counterweights and safety rails connecting one human breath to the next—overwhelmed by their thoughts and pleasures.

About TRatner

Terry Ratner is a freelance writer, registered nurse, and writing instructor in Phoenix, Arizona. In June of 2004, she graduated with a Master of Fine Arts degree in creative nonfiction from Antioch University, Los Angeles. Writing has always served a purpose in her life, but it wasn't until her son died in a motorcycle accident in March, 1999, that she began to publish her works. What's unique about Terry is the way she balances the life of a nurse with the life of a writer. "Nursing allows me to give back to the community and then write about those experiences." Ratner teaches creative writing in a variety of settings from community colleges to a school for homeless children (Thomas J. Pappas) to wellness communities throughout the Valley of the Sun. In 2004, Terry launched an Arts and Healing program for children undergoing dialysis at Banner Good Samaritan Medical Center. She has published numerous personal essays, cover stories, interviews, and book reviews for a variety of national and regional publications. Her manuscript, a work in progress, features a series of twelve essays, ten of which are introduced with black and white photos, dealing with issues of family and identity.
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1 Response to Let the Sighs Begin

  1. Connie Forbister says:

    Great writing Terry. It is helpful to me.

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